*UPHOLD HER DEEN (Islamic Understanding)!!!*
Ummu Ramlah: You are worried Oh my Son? What’s wrong with you?
Al-Aswad: I want to marry Oh my mother, but I haven’t found an appropriate sister to marry.
Ummu Ramlah: That’s not a problem. They are many young appropriate sisters for marriage.
Al-Aswad: Do you know an appropriate sister for Marriage?
Ummu Ramlah: Kabeerah bint Abdulkabir.
Al-Aswad: She is not appropriate! She is a poor girl. Not wealthy enough.
Ummu Ramlah: What do you see to Shafiqah bint Shafiq?
Al-Aswad: Na’am, he is from a wealthy family but I heard she is not beautiful.
Ummu Ramlah: There is Qaanitah bint Qaanit.
Al-Aswad: I heard she is personally wealthy and beautiful but I need a woman that is of good lineage.
Ummu Ramlah: You want a sister with wealth, beauty, and good lineage. These things do not guarantee a successful marriage!
Al-Aswad: Then what will guarantee a successful Marriage?
Ummu Ramlah: If you want a successful marriage life, then uphold a sister with the Deen (Understanding of the Deen)
Al-Aswad: That’s a good mum. This is in line with the word of the prophet: Uphold the one with Deen, for you to be successful.
Successful marriages are built on solid foundations and not what I like and wish for. This is Ibaadah! In order to learn these things, we need to return to the Prophetic example and see what the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did in his own life and what he taught others about marriage. He is the perfect example in every way and his standards should be our standards.
We must first begin by starting backwards and trying to undo the harm caused by our distorted views. So once we learn what he taught us about how to marry and what to go for in a spouse, we can then extrapolate what he didn’t teach us that we are all after in a spouse.
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