Must Know B4 Marriage!!!

*MUST KNOW BEFORE MARRIAGE*

I think this is an appropriate TIME for us to be reorientated about what you are going to do in your Matrimonial Home. For you not to be disappointed with what you will be seeing it coming across there. I think you need to see marriage vividly as an act of Ibaadah. Noooooo! Not just by saying but by actions this time.

When I said BY ACTIONS, I mean enough of the talk on the tongue without getting to our heart or tour around our body. Knowing the fact that not all that comes in form of Ibaadah is what we are satisfied with but must do it because it’s a commandment from the above authority called Allaah. The same goes for Marriage too. Not all you will get to meet there will be satisfactory to you but yet, you need to be submissive to it because He wants the best for us in this life and the Hereafter.

I am not saying you shouldn’t be hoping for enjoyment or expecting something good from ALLAAH but this life is full of what is GOOD and BAD. When you get married, you will experience the following:

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐ŸผYou have to be spending hours in the cooking palace while you are not used to it because it’s your mum that cook at home for you.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐ŸผYou have to serve your husband the food, wash hand basin, towel, sit beside him and pack the dishes off after eating while you see not your mum doing that for your dad or your dad gets all these by himself.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew that S*X has no timetable in marriage (it can be anytime and anywhere in as much as it is within the house) because where you came from, your mum dictates when to do it, styles to use and where to do it.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never understood that submissiveness to your husband in the Matrimonial home is a MUST BE (except it’s something against Allaah’s Wishes) because your mum never taught you that it has to be so or she is not submissive to your dad or her submission has an exception.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew you have to be washing his clothes always (yes you can use the washing machine if you have BUT what if you don’t have?) because you never see your mum do it.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew you are responsible for the bills of the house (house rent, children school bill, cooking gas bill, buying clothes plus bags and good shoes, PHCN bill, Lawma bill, Physics bill, Chemistry bill and all Bills) because your dad never did that or he shared the bills with your mum 50/50.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew you are responsible for teaching your household the Deen and not the Teachers in the school, Ustadhs at the Madrasat or the Shaykh at the Halqah. Simply because you never saw your dad doing that to your household. Allaah will ask you before questioning them.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew its not WAJIB (compulsory) to assist you in the domestic work at home but voluntarily just as you assisting him financially on bills is not WAJIB (compulsory) on you too but voluntarily to get more reward for both of you IF YOU LIKE!!!

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew that you can both be good in other Ibaadah (Tawheed, Solat, Fasting, Zakat and Sodaqah, Hajj, Umrah, etc) but can enter Hell-Fire through each other defaults in Roles, Duties and Obligations. You should remember the Hadith of Rosulullaah when he asked a woman if she has a husband. She answered in the affirmative. He then advised her to be watchful on how she behaves with him because He is your JANNAH or HELL-FIRE.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew that most things you are doing while being single will have to be abandoned (eating in the canteen or outside, watching football matches lately, sitting and gisting friends and family while you abandon your partner inside, going into someone’s room to talk while your partner is back from work, etc) because this is what you met your parents doing and no one says its BAD!!!

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew that you don’t have equal rights with your husband, just because some feminist has said it that what a man can do, a woman can do it better! Like, your husband has the right to check your phone but you don’t have the equal right to check his except he gives you willingly.

๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿผ You never knew that you will have to place your matrimonial home (taking care of them) above any other thing in your life. Be it your work or friends and family.

May Allaah makes us among those who hear Naseehah and act upon it for our better TOMORROW.

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